5 myths about good parenting. You know the looks you get from the other parents. The judgmental glares, stares, and rolling of the eyes from the “know-it-all parents” whose kids are perfect. Well, guess what? There is no such thing as a perfect parent or child.
Here are 5 myths you’ll want parenting advice for and knowledge about when it comes to being a good parent.
- Myth 1: When your child is having a public temper tantrum, it’s best to give him what he wants to avoid embarrassment. Wrong. This is a perfect time for you to demonstrate to your child that inappropriate behavior is never a way to get what he wants, especially in public. If need be, leave the shopping cart behind, calmly carry your child out the door (if your child is easy to carry), and get in your car. Whether you decide to go home or try again from here is up to you.
- Myth 2: Children in today’s world have enough to deal with, so giving them chores would be too overwhelming. Sorry, not true. Children need to learn responsibilities within the household to understand how a family works together to create a comfortable home. Yes, children do have a lot on their plates now days, but you can decide what outside activities might need to sit on the back burner for now. Does your child need all those sports activities, or can she benefit from having one or two activities and being a productive family member as well?
- Myth 3: If my child doesn’t excel, I am a failure as a parent. You’re a failure as a good parent if you put that kind of pressure on your child and expect him to meet those high standards. Keep in mind who your child is and what his strengths are, not what you want him to be. Be proud of any accomplishments no matter how big or small.
- Myth 4: My child has the right to not do what her teachers say if she doesn’t want to. Are you kidding me? What does this actually teach your child? Not to respect authority or other human beings? Teach your child that sometimes we all have to do things we don’t want to do, and sometimes we actually find out that it wasn’t so bad after all.
- Myth 5: I’m the only parent who is going through this. Absolutely not true! Many parents are just like you. They’re looking for parents to join forces with. Everyone needs support. How can you be a support to another parent? Be a friend and help each other as you go through similar parenting struggles.
Good parenting is not an easy job. Know that you’re doing the best you can with what you have and then seek others for ideas to help. Then, one day when you look back on this season of your life, you’ll know you did a great job!